So uh, if you didn't see, the new (interim) Readercon Board has been announced, and I'm on it (for my sins). The Safety Committee has also been announced, which I am not on, for the very good reason that I'm already taking on a lot this year. I know a lot of the people on that list though, and I trust them to do a good job.
So. Things are interesting.
So. Things are interesting.
So my re-entry from Worldcon has been rough. I'm trying to briefly break my caffeine addiction, for a lot of reasons, which means the past two days I have been completely without it. Which means lots of headaches and basically wanting to do nothing but sleep. Today though, today I could not do this. Today has been remarkably productive, and I am going to tell you about it so later I don't get into that trap of looking around the house and going "maaaaan I didn't get anything done today and I am the Worst."
-I had to get up super early (ok 6am which is my normal time on work days but I've been getting up at like, 10 or 11 or whenever) so I could take my car to the dealership. Needed an oil change and for them to fix my flat tire, which had a screw in it. This is not as much of a hardship as it may sound, as hanging out at our local Toyota dealership is actually rather pleasant if you can tune out the giant, constantly blaring tv. They have unlocked wifi, put out little pastries and bagels and fresh fruit for the taking, and there's a fancy coffee machine. The kind where you pick packets and throw them in there and it makes you something fancy. Watching people work this machine out for the first time is kind of hilarious. I mean, I feel them, it's confusing for something that tells you exactly what to do. Anyway I broke my caffeine fast because I can not resist the allure of playing with that machine. Also the Milky Way Swirl cappuccino it makes is pretty damn good. Two hours at the dealership meant plenty of time to fuck around on Twitter, plus some time to read the new Fairyland book (
catvalente gave me an ARC at Worldcon, yayyyyyyy!) which also meant attempting not to cry in public. If you read the first one, I'm not saying the second one does a recap at the beginning or anything, but something about getting back into that world and hanging out with September again meant Mallow's story came rushing back all at once and I was like "hHHNNNNNNGGGGGGG". Anyway car is taken care of for a bit longer. Need to get a new inspection done and spark plugs replaced soon, but other than that I should be ok for a while.
-On the way home I stopped at the store to get some ingredients to make salsa. Also chips, to eat the salsa.
-Also I stopped at the post office to mail in our voter registration cards, because we hadn't switched when we moved.
-Got home, made a really lovely cooked salsa. I started with this recipe but used a few cups of the cherry tomatoes I grew, also I put in an onion, also I used more garlic. Oh, and two jalapenos instead of one, and also 2 cheyenne peppers. I like it to have *some* heat, jeeze. Anyway it came out ridiculously amazing and good. I ate what wouldn't fit in the jar and put the rest in the fridge, and I have to keep it there at least long enough to let
lynxreign taste it. Looking back through that the onion is actually the only thing that went into the salsa that I didn't grow, which I'm pleased by.
-Before the salsa I harvested more cherry tomatoes, sprayed the tomato plants with the anti-mildew stuff again (because *siiiiighh*) and watered the garden.
-Finished my laundry, which means getting stuff out of the dryer and putting it all away, and running a load of the handwash stuff, and getting that load laid out to dry.
-Checked out Unfuck Your Habitat, something I'd been meaning to do for a while. I don't want to follow the tumblr or the twitter because I don't feel like that will be useful for me, but I did download the iPhone app and I think that might be good. I use to try to do FlyLady but I always hated how sanctimonious she is. Also the gendered stuff there really bugs me.
-Once I had the app I went back into the basement, turned on the 20/10 timer, and started working on the yarn closet. We went to the Container Store not too long ago and got me stackable plastic baskets for the closet, so I could finally get my yarn out of the boxes we'd moved it all in over a year ago, and I knew pretty much how it was going to go, and now it's finally getting there. I cleared off the shelves a little at a time so I could add more baskets as I filled them, and I emptied 5 boxes. Not everything from those boxes is put away, there was a lot of sorting into a different box for when I got through with the spinning fiber and the sock yarn (the sock yarn gets 4 of these baskets. There is still more sock yarn, because the special club yarns need to be separate. It's an issue that I am aware of, thank you). This is where the entry got eaten by my bad wifi connection, and I don't remember what else I had to say about the closet.
Anyway, now I'm trying to figure out what the hell is up with my laptop's wifi card, and also typing this, and trying to convince myself that moving to the couch and working on my sock-in-progress is still unfucking *something* and is also actually vital to my mental health and well-being.
Oh and Sunday we're going kayaking in the Boston Harbor and I'm so excited I almost don't know what to do with myself.
-I had to get up super early (ok 6am which is my normal time on work days but I've been getting up at like, 10 or 11 or whenever) so I could take my car to the dealership. Needed an oil change and for them to fix my flat tire, which had a screw in it. This is not as much of a hardship as it may sound, as hanging out at our local Toyota dealership is actually rather pleasant if you can tune out the giant, constantly blaring tv. They have unlocked wifi, put out little pastries and bagels and fresh fruit for the taking, and there's a fancy coffee machine. The kind where you pick packets and throw them in there and it makes you something fancy. Watching people work this machine out for the first time is kind of hilarious. I mean, I feel them, it's confusing for something that tells you exactly what to do. Anyway I broke my caffeine fast because I can not resist the allure of playing with that machine. Also the Milky Way Swirl cappuccino it makes is pretty damn good. Two hours at the dealership meant plenty of time to fuck around on Twitter, plus some time to read the new Fairyland book (
-On the way home I stopped at the store to get some ingredients to make salsa. Also chips, to eat the salsa.
-Also I stopped at the post office to mail in our voter registration cards, because we hadn't switched when we moved.
-Got home, made a really lovely cooked salsa. I started with this recipe but used a few cups of the cherry tomatoes I grew, also I put in an onion, also I used more garlic. Oh, and two jalapenos instead of one, and also 2 cheyenne peppers. I like it to have *some* heat, jeeze. Anyway it came out ridiculously amazing and good. I ate what wouldn't fit in the jar and put the rest in the fridge, and I have to keep it there at least long enough to let
-Before the salsa I harvested more cherry tomatoes, sprayed the tomato plants with the anti-mildew stuff again (because *siiiiighh*) and watered the garden.
-Finished my laundry, which means getting stuff out of the dryer and putting it all away, and running a load of the handwash stuff, and getting that load laid out to dry.
-Checked out Unfuck Your Habitat, something I'd been meaning to do for a while. I don't want to follow the tumblr or the twitter because I don't feel like that will be useful for me, but I did download the iPhone app and I think that might be good. I use to try to do FlyLady but I always hated how sanctimonious she is. Also the gendered stuff there really bugs me.
-Once I had the app I went back into the basement, turned on the 20/10 timer, and started working on the yarn closet. We went to the Container Store not too long ago and got me stackable plastic baskets for the closet, so I could finally get my yarn out of the boxes we'd moved it all in over a year ago, and I knew pretty much how it was going to go, and now it's finally getting there. I cleared off the shelves a little at a time so I could add more baskets as I filled them, and I emptied 5 boxes. Not everything from those boxes is put away, there was a lot of sorting into a different box for when I got through with the spinning fiber and the sock yarn (the sock yarn gets 4 of these baskets. There is still more sock yarn, because the special club yarns need to be separate. It's an issue that I am aware of, thank you). This is where the entry got eaten by my bad wifi connection, and I don't remember what else I had to say about the closet.
Anyway, now I'm trying to figure out what the hell is up with my laptop's wifi card, and also typing this, and trying to convince myself that moving to the couch and working on my sock-in-progress is still unfucking *something* and is also actually vital to my mental health and well-being.
Oh and Sunday we're going kayaking in the Boston Harbor and I'm so excited I almost don't know what to do with myself.
Ok SO. I went from not being ready to talk about the Readercon situation to basically bursting at the seams and not being ABLE to talk about it because of how much wasn't public info yet. Today our Public Statement went live, and I just want to say, BOOM.
If you don't feel like reading, we overturned the Board's decision entirely, enforced the lifetime ban on Rene Walling, apologized and discussed an action plan for moving forward and making Readercon safer. Also the entire Board resigned, but that news was out a few days ago.
No lie, this thing has been hard. Readercon has historically had some problems that we're going to be working on for a while, but even knowing that I can't express the sense of betrayal I had when I heard the Board's original decision on this. Also, I'm really, really bad at taking criticism of something I love or am a part of, and there's very much been a part of me not wanting to hear all the people mad at Readercon, since it so very felt like they were mad at me, even though I agreed with them completely. After I got past that first gut-clenching reaction though, I started seeing what was really going on with that anger and wow, I can't even express how grateful I am for it. There's a lot I'm bad at expressing, apparently. Anyway. Sonya Taaffe said something yesterday about how the anger hasn't so much been "Ugh Readercon we hate you and wish you'd die in a fire", it's been much more "Aw Readercon why are you disappointing me? Why did you have to go die in a fire? The hell?" and yeah, that's exactly it. The fact that so many people are standing up and saying that harassment is bad and harassers should feel bad and people who apologize for or coddle those harassers should *also* feel bad, that's awesome. I like that and I want to see it continue.
I very much have seen the posts and the anger and the petition as support for what
rosefox and many of us wanted out of this, and as support for what kind of a con we want Readercon to be. It's been really hard not to get defensive at certain points of this, but we needed the outcry and everything that went with it to get this done the way it should be. At this point I'm drained but also so happy that we can even make this beginning. When the statement went up earlier today and the reactions started coming in I suddenly burst into tears because oh my god, we are really and truly being given a chance here.
The actions of the Board broke the trust of a lot of people, and I know this statement and the actions in it aren't going to fix that for everyone, and that's ok. People are legitimately upset, and it's going to take time to deal with that. Some people may have written us off so completely that they don't want to hear the apology, and that's also ok. Hell, that's part of what this whole thing was about in the first place, right? No one owes us their time or attention, and we don't get to force anyone to hear or accept our apology, and that has to be ok, even if it stings. I'm going to keep doing whatever I can to make Readercon something I can be proud of, and something that no one feels excluded from. It's a process. We aren't finished yet, but I'm very much looking forward to getting closer.
If you don't feel like reading, we overturned the Board's decision entirely, enforced the lifetime ban on Rene Walling, apologized and discussed an action plan for moving forward and making Readercon safer. Also the entire Board resigned, but that news was out a few days ago.
No lie, this thing has been hard. Readercon has historically had some problems that we're going to be working on for a while, but even knowing that I can't express the sense of betrayal I had when I heard the Board's original decision on this. Also, I'm really, really bad at taking criticism of something I love or am a part of, and there's very much been a part of me not wanting to hear all the people mad at Readercon, since it so very felt like they were mad at me, even though I agreed with them completely. After I got past that first gut-clenching reaction though, I started seeing what was really going on with that anger and wow, I can't even express how grateful I am for it. There's a lot I'm bad at expressing, apparently. Anyway. Sonya Taaffe said something yesterday about how the anger hasn't so much been "Ugh Readercon we hate you and wish you'd die in a fire", it's been much more "Aw Readercon why are you disappointing me? Why did you have to go die in a fire? The hell?" and yeah, that's exactly it. The fact that so many people are standing up and saying that harassment is bad and harassers should feel bad and people who apologize for or coddle those harassers should *also* feel bad, that's awesome. I like that and I want to see it continue.
I very much have seen the posts and the anger and the petition as support for what
The actions of the Board broke the trust of a lot of people, and I know this statement and the actions in it aren't going to fix that for everyone, and that's ok. People are legitimately upset, and it's going to take time to deal with that. Some people may have written us off so completely that they don't want to hear the apology, and that's also ok. Hell, that's part of what this whole thing was about in the first place, right? No one owes us their time or attention, and we don't get to force anyone to hear or accept our apology, and that has to be ok, even if it stings. I'm going to keep doing whatever I can to make Readercon something I can be proud of, and something that no one feels excluded from. It's a process. We aren't finished yet, but I'm very much looking forward to getting closer.
I woke up with a headache and generally blah feeling, so I called in sick and slept for another couple of hours. At that point I woke up feeling pretty good, so I've actually gotten a decent amount of stuff done today! Also really, any day I don't have to see my boss is an extra-good day, LET'S BE HONEST HERE.
Mostly today I was doing garden stuff. Last night we ate the first cherry tomato and pepper from the garden! There are pictures on my twitter, I'll try to link 'em at some point.
lynxreign said eating half of the cherry tomato had as much flavor as a supermarket tomato 4x the size, so I am pleased. I don't generally eat store tomatoes, so I don't have as much basis for comparison (not out of snobbery or anything, I just didn't think I liked tomatoes for a really long time, and it turns out a lot of that is how freakin' tasteless most grocery store tomatoes are), but it did seem pretty good.
But yeah, there is a veritable TOMATO EMPIRE out my back door now. Cherry tomatoes are getting ripe, the pear tomatoes are suddenly showing up and getting huge, and the Black Krim tomatoes are hinting at how epic they'll be in a few more weeks. The peppers are coming along nicely as well.
lynxreign and I had to make an emergency Home Depot run last night for twine and bamboo sticks, because the tomato cages I bought are really laughably too short for the types of tomatoes I ended up with. We also got some planters for me to put along the fence, which are going to get some bean and squash seeds tomorrow probably. Today I shored up the tomato supports, weedwhacked the horrible area next to the fence (thanks to
shadesong and family for the loan of the weedwhacker), filled the new containers with dirt, and harvested the garlic. The garlic harvest is kind of disappointing, to be honest. I don't know if I did something wrong or if it was the weather this year or what, but all of the bulbs are pretty small. It may be that I planted them too close together, not sure. They're drying out in the basement now, and I'll probably try some of them tonight or tomorrow. We ate one bulb already, roasted on the grill with some carrots, and it *did* taste pretty amazing. So IDK, I guess I don't have to decide until September anyway. Garlic takes up a lot of space. Having the scapes available whenever I wanted them was nice, and if the garlic tastes better than what we buy, maybe it's still worth it. Maybe this year I'll try a different type, and maybe I'll do things like mulch and water more frequently, and see if it makes a difference. Or maybe I'll take a year off from garlic and put something else in that space and try again next year, IDK.
Trying to explain some of this stuff to
lynxreign along the way has been fun. Last night I was explaining the difference between determinate and indeterminate tomato types. His first guess was that it had something to do with the seeds, and really he was thinking of hybrid vs heirloom veg. It was a good guess though! Anyway if you don't already know and care for some reason, determinate varieties tend to have more compact growth, they don't get as tall, they don't sprawl as much, and the tomatoes mostly ripen all at the same time. Indeterminate means the opposite, basically. More sprawling growth, and the tomatoes ripen over a longer period. There are advantages and disadvantages to each. I don't really want to do canning this year, so I figured indeterminate made sense because that way I'd get a few tomatoes over a month or two, not a million all at once. I just wasn't prepared for *how* sprawly their growth is, thus the bamboo and twine. I've been reading about growing this stuff for years, but this is the first year I've actually done it, you see. This year I had meant to start seeds over the winter, and didn't because of the massive winter sluggishness/depression that hit me, so I ended up just buying whatever packs of seedlings I found at a local garden center. Which, it seems like it's working out. But this winter, dammit, I am determined to do my own seeds. I checked the ones I had to see if I had given myself a break by getting any determinate types. NOPE LOL.
Part of this is also because determinate tends to be something you see with newer hybrid varieties, and I'm generally more drawn to the heirloom types. Next year I'll be prepared for this though, so I won't be startled when I go out back one day and the teeny tiny little tomato plants are suddenly these gigantic ridiculous monsters taller than me. I'll already have better support in place and I'll look at them and be like "lol yes you jerks." Or something. I might be a little punchy at this point.
Um, let's see, for peppers it's jalapenos and cheyenne, plus something that was in the jalapeno flat but clearly ISN'T. It's some kind of cherry pepper I guess? It's tiny and round and tastes like a bell pepper. Bonus, I guess.
I'm also pulling carrots every few days. Turns out really fresh, tiny carrots are awesome in ramen. I feel kinda ridiculous tossing them in there, but hot damn they're good.
Got the basil planted real late, but it's starting to come in now. Lots of other herbs out there too. The cilantro is getting all cute and bushy and I want to eat it all?
OH OH THE WEIRDEST THING: ok, all of my garden reading has told me that growing mint from seed is dumb and pointless and slow and also stupid. But I ordered this pack of herb seeds a while back, and one of them was peppermint. I looked at it all skeptical, then shrugged and tossed some into a pot. "Why not?" I figured, "worst that happens is they don't grow and I put something else in there." Yeah it's actually doing really well. Lol ok peppermint seeds, I don't know what you're up to but thanks I guess?
Anyway I'll definitely talk like I know what I'm doing but I really don't! Somehow it's mostly working out though! Plus I'm lucky and have
sparkymonster,
nex0s, and
izzybelbooks on twitter. They actually *do* know what they're talking about, so it's fun times discussing this stuff with them. #ladygardenchat sounds like a euphemism, but that just makes it even better.
Mostly today I was doing garden stuff. Last night we ate the first cherry tomato and pepper from the garden! There are pictures on my twitter, I'll try to link 'em at some point.
But yeah, there is a veritable TOMATO EMPIRE out my back door now. Cherry tomatoes are getting ripe, the pear tomatoes are suddenly showing up and getting huge, and the Black Krim tomatoes are hinting at how epic they'll be in a few more weeks. The peppers are coming along nicely as well.
Trying to explain some of this stuff to
Part of this is also because determinate tends to be something you see with newer hybrid varieties, and I'm generally more drawn to the heirloom types. Next year I'll be prepared for this though, so I won't be startled when I go out back one day and the teeny tiny little tomato plants are suddenly these gigantic ridiculous monsters taller than me. I'll already have better support in place and I'll look at them and be like "lol yes you jerks." Or something. I might be a little punchy at this point.
Um, let's see, for peppers it's jalapenos and cheyenne, plus something that was in the jalapeno flat but clearly ISN'T. It's some kind of cherry pepper I guess? It's tiny and round and tastes like a bell pepper. Bonus, I guess.
I'm also pulling carrots every few days. Turns out really fresh, tiny carrots are awesome in ramen. I feel kinda ridiculous tossing them in there, but hot damn they're good.
Got the basil planted real late, but it's starting to come in now. Lots of other herbs out there too. The cilantro is getting all cute and bushy and I want to eat it all?
OH OH THE WEIRDEST THING: ok, all of my garden reading has told me that growing mint from seed is dumb and pointless and slow and also stupid. But I ordered this pack of herb seeds a while back, and one of them was peppermint. I looked at it all skeptical, then shrugged and tossed some into a pot. "Why not?" I figured, "worst that happens is they don't grow and I put something else in there." Yeah it's actually doing really well. Lol ok peppermint seeds, I don't know what you're up to but thanks I guess?
Anyway I'll definitely talk like I know what I'm doing but I really don't! Somehow it's mostly working out though! Plus I'm lucky and have
This is about the Readercon thing, and if you don't know what I'm talking about skip this for now and I'll explain later.
I'm not really ready to talk about it. I'm reeling, (also I need to leave for work) and still processing. I did leave this comment on the official statement though:
This coming year is my third year as a member of the programming committee for Readercon, and this is devastating. I don't care about Walling's redemption story. I mean, this is Readercon guys, we could have an entire panel about how male redemption stories in SF/F are super duper overdone and we're all fucking sick of them. I'm way more interested in the story of the awesome lady writer who bravely reported harassment and got shit taken care of.
Flipness aside, I don't care who the harasser is or who the harassed is, Readercon is actively making their attendees feel unsafe with this decision. I like Readercon, and I don't want to see it die. That's what will happen if new people don't want to come. Please stop making me disappointed in you, I know you're all better than this.
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IDK I'm not bailing out of this thing just yet and I'll probably write more about this when I can catch my breath and stop just SIGHING everywhere when I think about it, and I will be sending something to info@readercon.org as well, and I'd like for everyone else who's pissed off to do so as well if you can. Readercon means a lot to me and I'm not willing to give up on it just yet, but I can't let people just run it into the ground either.
Like I said, not really ready to talk about it, just didn't want my silence to get too loud.
I'm not really ready to talk about it. I'm reeling, (also I need to leave for work) and still processing. I did leave this comment on the official statement though:
This coming year is my third year as a member of the programming committee for Readercon, and this is devastating. I don't care about Walling's redemption story. I mean, this is Readercon guys, we could have an entire panel about how male redemption stories in SF/F are super duper overdone and we're all fucking sick of them. I'm way more interested in the story of the awesome lady writer who bravely reported harassment and got shit taken care of.
Flipness aside, I don't care who the harasser is or who the harassed is, Readercon is actively making their attendees feel unsafe with this decision. I like Readercon, and I don't want to see it die. That's what will happen if new people don't want to come. Please stop making me disappointed in you, I know you're all better than this.
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IDK I'm not bailing out of this thing just yet and I'll probably write more about this when I can catch my breath and stop just SIGHING everywhere when I think about it, and I will be sending something to info@readercon.org as well, and I'd like for everyone else who's pissed off to do so as well if you can. Readercon means a lot to me and I'm not willing to give up on it just yet, but I can't let people just run it into the ground either.
Like I said, not really ready to talk about it, just didn't want my silence to get too loud.
I wrote this on Tumblr yesterday and I needed to put it somewhere I'd be able to find again, since Tumblr is shit for that.
OK so today we kayaked again, and friends, it was MAGICAL. I’ve said all of this on twitter so skip to the next paragraph if you’ve seen it but on the way there we saw a woodchuck, just chilling out on the side of the road nomming some plants. Then on the river we saw about a million turtles sunning themselves, the usual shit-tons of geese and ducks, lots of ducklings and goslings too, loons, blue herons, night herons, herons sitting on a floaty thing making patterns with their wings (every other one had their wings out), and a guy on the banks playing saxophone as we paddled past.
Anyway the important thing is that this is actually only my second time kayaking, but I did WAY better than last time. We were out there for about 2.5 hours, and we went 7.28 miles, which is a LOT and my shoulders will probably hate me tomorrow. So right now I’m pretty damn pleased with myself, and it got me thinking about body acceptance and exercise and stuff. I’ve been lifting weights semi-seriously for a couple of months now too, and I’m starting to see actual definition in my arms? That’s rad. Here’s the thing, is that doing this stuff is making me appreciate my body in ways I don’t think I have before. Like, I’m still fat guys, I’m not going to shy away from that. I hover around 200 pounds right now and I’m kinda short, and I’m fat. Whatevs, right?
I’ve seen Fat Acceptance people talk about not “punishing” their body with exercise, and I get that. The thing that’s changed is that exercise is now a way for me to revel in my body and be proud of what it can do. There’s probably a lot more there to think about, and I might come back to it, but the other thing this got me onto was healthy and unhealthy behaviors and how sometimes those can be the same behaviors but with different mindsets, which is not a terribly earth-shattering thought, but there it is. I used to exercise because I thought I had to because obviously I should want to be thin. Sidenote: it may or may not be important to the understanding of this post that my mom is/was/is again IDK anorexic. Which explains a lot about my thought processes and what I heard growing up. Anyway. I always hated exercise, and I hated sports, and nothing about any of it was ever fun once it became about losing weight. Exercise was a means to an end and that end came out of self-hatred and all of the ways society told me to hate myself because my body was unacceptable. So no wonder I never really stuck with it, right?
My goals have changed completely now. I’m pretty cool with my muscles bulking up if that’s what ends up happening with my body, I’m cool if my stomach’s never flat, whatever. I really loved the way I felt at the end of our paddle today, even if my arms were a little shaky trying to get out of the dang kayak (if you have never done this it is an obnoxious way to do things), and I know my shoulders will probably hate me tomorrow. There’s a lot tied up in this, and part of it is this whole thing where being a vocal (even mildly vocal, which is where I put myself) feminist on the internet means accusations of misandry, and how so many of us have basically decided to just run with that for now. I mean hey, if you’re going to accuse me of hating men and wanting them all dead, well, you convinced me! So there’s a bunch of us who’ve been weightlifting and talking about this and rejecting this thing of wanting to be stronger but “you know, not bulking up.” Screw it man, I’m fine with my body bulking up. I want to look like I can punch ALL the dicks.
So then the flipside of this is how the same behavior can be healthy or unhealthy even in the same person. In high school my best friend was anorexic. Which I was super in denial about because I saw her eat every day, so how could this be? She was a health nut, right? And that was the thing. She exercised to the point of obsession, and she’d internalized the idea that *any* fat on her body was bad. Part of this was because she got into bodybuilding. It got bad enough with her that she stopped having her period and her parents were thinking of sending her to an institution instead of having her senior year at school with me. This was the point where together, she and I finally faced the extent of her problem, and she started getting better.
A few years later when we were in college in different states, she sent me an email after completing her first half-marathon. She talked about standing in the shower after the race and being exhausted, but so proud of her body and what it had accomplished. She knew she never would have had the staying power for a race like that when she was still sick.
So I don’t really have a grand conclusion here, and obviously this is really just about me and I’m not going to try to generalize out to anyone else or start acting like I know what everyone should do, but this was some important stuff for me to think through. It’s kind of a big deal for me to be able to look in the mirror and see my belly fat and still be proud of how far I got in the kayak today, and know that tomorrow I’m going to completely rock my gym session, and even if no one but me can *look* at me and see all that, well, fuck those people anyway.
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So the part I forgot when I wrote this (because my brain was actually pretty fried, which is why this may seem a *bit* all over the place) is that there's also this thing where women aren't supposed to take up space. Diet yourself into literally disappearing dammit why do you think you deserve any space here? I hear the same thing when people tell women not to bulk up, not to use heavy weights because muscles on girls are gross, on and on and on. And that's part of where I'm coming from here, as a women trying to learn how to be comfortable with taking up space. I am allowed to fill the space I am in.
OK so today we kayaked again, and friends, it was MAGICAL. I’ve said all of this on twitter so skip to the next paragraph if you’ve seen it but on the way there we saw a woodchuck, just chilling out on the side of the road nomming some plants. Then on the river we saw about a million turtles sunning themselves, the usual shit-tons of geese and ducks, lots of ducklings and goslings too, loons, blue herons, night herons, herons sitting on a floaty thing making patterns with their wings (every other one had their wings out), and a guy on the banks playing saxophone as we paddled past.
Anyway the important thing is that this is actually only my second time kayaking, but I did WAY better than last time. We were out there for about 2.5 hours, and we went 7.28 miles, which is a LOT and my shoulders will probably hate me tomorrow. So right now I’m pretty damn pleased with myself, and it got me thinking about body acceptance and exercise and stuff. I’ve been lifting weights semi-seriously for a couple of months now too, and I’m starting to see actual definition in my arms? That’s rad. Here’s the thing, is that doing this stuff is making me appreciate my body in ways I don’t think I have before. Like, I’m still fat guys, I’m not going to shy away from that. I hover around 200 pounds right now and I’m kinda short, and I’m fat. Whatevs, right?
I’ve seen Fat Acceptance people talk about not “punishing” their body with exercise, and I get that. The thing that’s changed is that exercise is now a way for me to revel in my body and be proud of what it can do. There’s probably a lot more there to think about, and I might come back to it, but the other thing this got me onto was healthy and unhealthy behaviors and how sometimes those can be the same behaviors but with different mindsets, which is not a terribly earth-shattering thought, but there it is. I used to exercise because I thought I had to because obviously I should want to be thin. Sidenote: it may or may not be important to the understanding of this post that my mom is/was/is again IDK anorexic. Which explains a lot about my thought processes and what I heard growing up. Anyway. I always hated exercise, and I hated sports, and nothing about any of it was ever fun once it became about losing weight. Exercise was a means to an end and that end came out of self-hatred and all of the ways society told me to hate myself because my body was unacceptable. So no wonder I never really stuck with it, right?
My goals have changed completely now. I’m pretty cool with my muscles bulking up if that’s what ends up happening with my body, I’m cool if my stomach’s never flat, whatever. I really loved the way I felt at the end of our paddle today, even if my arms were a little shaky trying to get out of the dang kayak (if you have never done this it is an obnoxious way to do things), and I know my shoulders will probably hate me tomorrow. There’s a lot tied up in this, and part of it is this whole thing where being a vocal (even mildly vocal, which is where I put myself) feminist on the internet means accusations of misandry, and how so many of us have basically decided to just run with that for now. I mean hey, if you’re going to accuse me of hating men and wanting them all dead, well, you convinced me! So there’s a bunch of us who’ve been weightlifting and talking about this and rejecting this thing of wanting to be stronger but “you know, not bulking up.” Screw it man, I’m fine with my body bulking up. I want to look like I can punch ALL the dicks.
So then the flipside of this is how the same behavior can be healthy or unhealthy even in the same person. In high school my best friend was anorexic. Which I was super in denial about because I saw her eat every day, so how could this be? She was a health nut, right? And that was the thing. She exercised to the point of obsession, and she’d internalized the idea that *any* fat on her body was bad. Part of this was because she got into bodybuilding. It got bad enough with her that she stopped having her period and her parents were thinking of sending her to an institution instead of having her senior year at school with me. This was the point where together, she and I finally faced the extent of her problem, and she started getting better.
A few years later when we were in college in different states, she sent me an email after completing her first half-marathon. She talked about standing in the shower after the race and being exhausted, but so proud of her body and what it had accomplished. She knew she never would have had the staying power for a race like that when she was still sick.
So I don’t really have a grand conclusion here, and obviously this is really just about me and I’m not going to try to generalize out to anyone else or start acting like I know what everyone should do, but this was some important stuff for me to think through. It’s kind of a big deal for me to be able to look in the mirror and see my belly fat and still be proud of how far I got in the kayak today, and know that tomorrow I’m going to completely rock my gym session, and even if no one but me can *look* at me and see all that, well, fuck those people anyway.
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So the part I forgot when I wrote this (because my brain was actually pretty fried, which is why this may seem a *bit* all over the place) is that there's also this thing where women aren't supposed to take up space. Diet yourself into literally disappearing dammit why do you think you deserve any space here? I hear the same thing when people tell women not to bulk up, not to use heavy weights because muscles on girls are gross, on and on and on. And that's part of where I'm coming from here, as a women trying to learn how to be comfortable with taking up space. I am allowed to fill the space I am in.
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Doing a little friends-cut, nothing major, just feel like tightening in a little.
As you may have noticed, I recently started getting back into gardening. So maybe a week ago, I saw a thing about this seed company being in trouble. I started reading about it, and here's the deal and why I want you all to know about it too: This is Landreth Seeds. They have been in business since 1784, which is pretty cool in and of itself. They are the oldest seed company in the States, which is also pretty cool. They're dedicated to preserving heirloom varieties of seeds, and while they do carry hybrids, they won't carry any genetically modified seeds or plants. Personally I'm not against genetically modified plants completely, but I do care very much about biodiversity and preserving the heirloom varieties, so I started perusing the site.
There's a lot of cool stuff there! They have neat notecards with art from vintage, illustrated seed packets, they have great tools and equipment for gardeners, they have gorgeous books for people interested in things like heirloom tomatoes, and the variety of plants and seeds is actually a little staggering.
They also have collections of seeds, often with a book or pamphlet of information or recipes, packaged up in cute little bags. I ordered some of these the other day.
One of these is particularly interesting to me, and a big part of why I want to get the word out about this. They've put together a collection of African American heritage seeds. There's more information on the Special Collection page (and more varieties than what comes in the set), and I really think that this is a very cool, very important thing. There's a lot to be learned about a culture based on their food history and what they grew, and preserving the actual heirloom varieties that slaves and sharecroppers were growing is a really important piece of history. I think it would be a really cool way to teach some of this to kids, by getting the collection (which comes with the book that the historian who put all this together wrote on the topic) and starting a garden with them.
So obviously, the best thing would be if you ordered stuff from them. They're doing a drive to save the company right now, and even if you don't garden, ordering their catalog would be a good thing. It's a gorgeous catalog with illustrations of the plants, and really well put together, from what I hear. If you don't want a catalog and don't have any use for the stuff they sell but still want to help, there's a button to donate on the front page. Spreading the word to anyone you know who does garden is also good. Of course, no one who reads this is under any obligation to do anything at all. If this isn't your thing and you don't know any gardeners, whatever! It's no big deal! I've been telling people about this in email for a week, and finally decided I should put this out here for anyone I know who might be interested.
In other news, the other day I got to eat an ENTIRE SALAD of THINGS I GREW MYSELF and I was like "GREENS SO FRESH EVERYBODY WANTS TO FIGHT ME." because it was so awesome.

I don't know how to make that smaller right now, sorry.
There's a lot of cool stuff there! They have neat notecards with art from vintage, illustrated seed packets, they have great tools and equipment for gardeners, they have gorgeous books for people interested in things like heirloom tomatoes, and the variety of plants and seeds is actually a little staggering.
They also have collections of seeds, often with a book or pamphlet of information or recipes, packaged up in cute little bags. I ordered some of these the other day.
One of these is particularly interesting to me, and a big part of why I want to get the word out about this. They've put together a collection of African American heritage seeds. There's more information on the Special Collection page (and more varieties than what comes in the set), and I really think that this is a very cool, very important thing. There's a lot to be learned about a culture based on their food history and what they grew, and preserving the actual heirloom varieties that slaves and sharecroppers were growing is a really important piece of history. I think it would be a really cool way to teach some of this to kids, by getting the collection (which comes with the book that the historian who put all this together wrote on the topic) and starting a garden with them.
So obviously, the best thing would be if you ordered stuff from them. They're doing a drive to save the company right now, and even if you don't garden, ordering their catalog would be a good thing. It's a gorgeous catalog with illustrations of the plants, and really well put together, from what I hear. If you don't want a catalog and don't have any use for the stuff they sell but still want to help, there's a button to donate on the front page. Spreading the word to anyone you know who does garden is also good. Of course, no one who reads this is under any obligation to do anything at all. If this isn't your thing and you don't know any gardeners, whatever! It's no big deal! I've been telling people about this in email for a week, and finally decided I should put this out here for anyone I know who might be interested.
In other news, the other day I got to eat an ENTIRE SALAD of THINGS I GREW MYSELF and I was like "GREENS SO FRESH EVERYBODY WANTS TO FIGHT ME." because it was so awesome.

I don't know how to make that smaller right now, sorry.
I have been sitting on this news for like, 3 months? I can finally tell you all that I'll be part of the deCordova's Biennial show, running January through April, as part of the South End Knitters. It opens on my birthday. :) Here is a Boston Globe article about the show. We're only mentioned at the end, but still. Everybody come to Boston to see it!
peaseblossom is also in this! It's very exciting and I kind of can't believe this is real life?
I'm at work today and I need to finish the grant report but part of my brain is like "GRANT REPORT? NO! I AM AN ~ARTIST~ NOW!" and I'm like "that's adorable brain, but you still have a job that pays you so get the news out and then shut that down for a while for fucks sake."

Last night we had to put Copper to sleep. She was 17, and had so many health problems at this point, and last night when lynx got home she was having trouble breathing. When I got home we went to the emergency vet, and they said that there was fluid around and possibly in her lungs, and that it was probably either heart disease or cancer. They could remove the fluid, but it was only going to keep building back up and getting worse. That, on top of all of her other problems, was probably going to leave her miserable, so we had to decide to let her go. This is impossible and there's never any way for it to be easy, so we're doing about as well as could be expected.
I want to write about what a great cat she was and tell you all about her, but right now I can't. She was the best cat. I'll always miss her.
It's just me babbling about gardening stuff, feel free to skip if it's not your thing.
I need some kind of gardening icon!
I'm at work and away from all of my notes and spreadsheets and whatnot, so this might not get completed until later. I *should* be writing the grant report, but I'm looking at this as a warm-up.
So, gardening! I started getting kinda into growing herbs and stuff back in Little Rock, but I had to leave all of the plants and pots and everything behind when I moved up here. It was actually very sad, but I managed. My first three places in Boston weren't at all conducive even to pots of things (well, I *could* have gardened quite a bit at the second place in Somerville, but I wasn't there long enough and grad school and such as), and I was starting to get itchy with missing it, especially after helping
catvalente and
justbeast plant a pretty awesome garden at their last place.
At our current apartment, we actually have a backyard and a little patio, so plants have begun sort of appearing. We have a big pot with a tiny pine tree that was a favor from
athalran and
inochinoakari's wedding. it has been joined by a pot of rosemary and a pot of chocolate mint. I've also added basil (ok don't judge me, but the seeds came from a box of Triscuits. I don't even know), two kinds of thyme, and two kinds of spinach to the pot with the tree, as the pot is very large, and the tree is very small, and having other things in there means less weeding for me. Lynx gets nervous that these things are taking nutrients away from the tree, but it's really fine. The basil needs to get cut down and the thyme needs a trim, but really, it is a very big pot.
MEANWHILE, there was the basement flooding. That saga is ongoing and still very stressful and annoying, but I think our landlord is probably going to be able to get the work done pretty quickly once he's able to get it started, so possibly by the end of next month? Anyway, lynx came up with a plan to help make sure it never has a chance to happen again, which involves building garden boxes that completely surround the window, as dams to stop any water that rises in the backyard. That means that after this weekend, I will suddenly have quite a bit of raised garden bed space to begin planting in. Yay! SUPER big thanks on this go out to
nex0s, who gave us the idea by planning and building the garden we helped Cat and D with, and for answering my email questions about how the boxes worked and what kind of wood we needed to use and so on. There's going to be one box shaped like an L that goes out from the side of the house and then over to the fence, to block in the window, and then two shorter, straight boxes right at the end of the patio, just for funzies. We're going to Home Depot tonight and they should be finished by the weekend, at which point I can take some pictures.
In anticipation of this I was doing research on good winter veggies and cold hardy salad greens and things like that, and the second day I was working on this I found out one of my favorite seed sources (Nichols Gardens, they are fabulous) was actually having a sale on seeds specifically for fall and winter planting. So THAT worked out nicely. I ordered a bunch of stuff and when it got here, we still weren't quite ready to build the boxes, so I made a bunch of "improvised containers" by which I mean I chopped the tops off of a bunch of 2L Diet Coke bottles, gouged some drainage holes in the bottoms, and tossed in some potting soil and seeds. These are all coming along nicely at this point. The spinach has produced enough leaves that we're going to cut them and make hamburgers tonight with spinach leaves as a topping.
Last night I sat down with paper and sketched out where everything will get planted. Decisions are hard, guys, that took forever.
Anyway, here is an incomplete list of things that are either getting planted or transplanted this weekend:
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I need some kind of gardening icon!
I'm at work and away from all of my notes and spreadsheets and whatnot, so this might not get completed until later. I *should* be writing the grant report, but I'm looking at this as a warm-up.
So, gardening! I started getting kinda into growing herbs and stuff back in Little Rock, but I had to leave all of the plants and pots and everything behind when I moved up here. It was actually very sad, but I managed. My first three places in Boston weren't at all conducive even to pots of things (well, I *could* have gardened quite a bit at the second place in Somerville, but I wasn't there long enough and grad school and such as), and I was starting to get itchy with missing it, especially after helping
At our current apartment, we actually have a backyard and a little patio, so plants have begun sort of appearing. We have a big pot with a tiny pine tree that was a favor from
MEANWHILE, there was the basement flooding. That saga is ongoing and still very stressful and annoying, but I think our landlord is probably going to be able to get the work done pretty quickly once he's able to get it started, so possibly by the end of next month? Anyway, lynx came up with a plan to help make sure it never has a chance to happen again, which involves building garden boxes that completely surround the window, as dams to stop any water that rises in the backyard. That means that after this weekend, I will suddenly have quite a bit of raised garden bed space to begin planting in. Yay! SUPER big thanks on this go out to
In anticipation of this I was doing research on good winter veggies and cold hardy salad greens and things like that, and the second day I was working on this I found out one of my favorite seed sources (Nichols Gardens, they are fabulous) was actually having a sale on seeds specifically for fall and winter planting. So THAT worked out nicely. I ordered a bunch of stuff and when it got here, we still weren't quite ready to build the boxes, so I made a bunch of "improvised containers" by which I mean I chopped the tops off of a bunch of 2L Diet Coke bottles, gouged some drainage holes in the bottoms, and tossed in some potting soil and seeds. These are all coming along nicely at this point. The spinach has produced enough leaves that we're going to cut them and make hamburgers tonight with spinach leaves as a topping.
Last night I sat down with paper and sketched out where everything will get planted. Decisions are hard, guys, that took forever.
Anyway, here is an incomplete list of things that are either getting planted or transplanted this weekend:
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We're back from Chicago. Many fine adventures were had, very few pictures were taken, because that's how we roll.
I'm looking at lj now but I haven't even glanced at it since we left, so if there's something important, link me.
We were planning to drive until about midnight last night, stop in New York, and finish driving today, but once we got past Utica it didn't look like there was going to be anywhere non-sketchy to stop for another couple of hours, and there were only 4 hours of driving left anyway, so we just kept going and got home around quarter to 3. We're awake now, but you know. Kind of. Going to pick up the kitty from the kennel here in a bit.
More later.
I'm looking at lj now but I haven't even glanced at it since we left, so if there's something important, link me.
We were planning to drive until about midnight last night, stop in New York, and finish driving today, but once we got past Utica it didn't look like there was going to be anywhere non-sketchy to stop for another couple of hours, and there were only 4 hours of driving left anyway, so we just kept going and got home around quarter to 3. We're awake now, but you know. Kind of. Going to pick up the kitty from the kennel here in a bit.
More later.
So today has been very exciting! I called in sick to work, and was kind of just puttering around. Had the back door open for the breeze. Big bottle of iced green tea that I'd made, next to me at the computer. Nice, right? Probably in a few minutes I would have headed up to shower and go see
shadesong to give her some knitting help.
THEN, from outside, I could hear my neighbor out back, moving things around on her back porch and yelling "OHHH MY GOOOD" every few minutes. I kind of just ignored her because I assumed either her cat or her kids had done something stupid. Then I heard her on the phone with someone, sounding panicked, and saying that the backyard was flooded and it was all getting into her basement.
Umm. What?
I had been out back not even half an hour before this, picking some fresh herbs to put in my ramen, and everything had been fine then! I went out to look though, and sure enough: backyard SUPER FLOODED. Basement windows: WATER EVERYWHERE. So I ran downstairs to see how bad it was in the basement and it was REALLY BAD. There was like, a good couple of inches standing water in most of the basement, other parts squelched when I walked on them, oh shit.
I ran back upstairs and tried to call
lynxreign, left a message, same with the landlord, then ran back down stairs and started moving vulnerable things to safety. NGL, when I saw how wet the bottoms of my spinning wheels were I may have screamed a few times. They'll be fine, but ugh.
Eventually I managed to get through to lynx, and accidentally made him think the basement was a swimming pool, instead of just a wading pool, so he left work and came home. The neighbor lady and a plumber came over and helped me move things.
The fire department came to pump all the water out of the backyard. My basement windows, when viewed from inside the basement, no longer looked like aquariums. There are people here from a cleaning agency, and they are sucking all of the water out of the basement carpet. I'm typing this mostly to resist the urge to go "help" them, because I know I'd mostly just be in the way. These guys are good, and they're taking care of things. It's all going to be fine.
So let's see. I think we may lose a few books, but not many. All of lynx's games are fine, as they were on shelves and the water didn't get *that* high. A lot of the vinyl was stacked on the floor, so I'm thinking we're going to lose a lot of the covers, but the actual records should be fine. All of my yarn and fiber was on shelves and in plastic, so it's all fine. The wheels will be fine, I just need to get them dried off once the cleaning dudes are done. Some of the boxes of cds in the corner need to be dealt with, but the actual cds will be fine. Mostly anything that's ruined was trash anyway, so we're not that concerned right now. I did have to stop neighbor lady from "helping" by putting a plastic crate with a wet bottom right on top of the stack of art and paintings waiting to be hung. All the art is stacked on a closet shelf, so it was fine, but a WET PLASTIC CRATE CAN NOT GO ON TOP OF THE ERIN MORGENSTERN PAINTING I WOULD CRY FOR WEEKS.
So all in all it's really not that bad, but frustrating as hell and very messy. Good thing I had stayed home today, though! Eesh!
ETA: Oh man, I forgot to tell you guys *why* it happened! At first they thought the water main on the corner burst, but then they realized it was actually the sprinkler system for the complex. The outdoor system, that is. I have a complicated relationship with that system anyway, I think our landscapers here mow way too often and overwater like mad, but STILL.
THEN, from outside, I could hear my neighbor out back, moving things around on her back porch and yelling "OHHH MY GOOOD" every few minutes. I kind of just ignored her because I assumed either her cat or her kids had done something stupid. Then I heard her on the phone with someone, sounding panicked, and saying that the backyard was flooded and it was all getting into her basement.
Umm. What?
I had been out back not even half an hour before this, picking some fresh herbs to put in my ramen, and everything had been fine then! I went out to look though, and sure enough: backyard SUPER FLOODED. Basement windows: WATER EVERYWHERE. So I ran downstairs to see how bad it was in the basement and it was REALLY BAD. There was like, a good couple of inches standing water in most of the basement, other parts squelched when I walked on them, oh shit.
I ran back upstairs and tried to call
Eventually I managed to get through to lynx, and accidentally made him think the basement was a swimming pool, instead of just a wading pool, so he left work and came home. The neighbor lady and a plumber came over and helped me move things.
The fire department came to pump all the water out of the backyard. My basement windows, when viewed from inside the basement, no longer looked like aquariums. There are people here from a cleaning agency, and they are sucking all of the water out of the basement carpet. I'm typing this mostly to resist the urge to go "help" them, because I know I'd mostly just be in the way. These guys are good, and they're taking care of things. It's all going to be fine.
So let's see. I think we may lose a few books, but not many. All of lynx's games are fine, as they were on shelves and the water didn't get *that* high. A lot of the vinyl was stacked on the floor, so I'm thinking we're going to lose a lot of the covers, but the actual records should be fine. All of my yarn and fiber was on shelves and in plastic, so it's all fine. The wheels will be fine, I just need to get them dried off once the cleaning dudes are done. Some of the boxes of cds in the corner need to be dealt with, but the actual cds will be fine. Mostly anything that's ruined was trash anyway, so we're not that concerned right now. I did have to stop neighbor lady from "helping" by putting a plastic crate with a wet bottom right on top of the stack of art and paintings waiting to be hung. All the art is stacked on a closet shelf, so it was fine, but a WET PLASTIC CRATE CAN NOT GO ON TOP OF THE ERIN MORGENSTERN PAINTING I WOULD CRY FOR WEEKS.
So all in all it's really not that bad, but frustrating as hell and very messy. Good thing I had stayed home today, though! Eesh!
ETA: Oh man, I forgot to tell you guys *why* it happened! At first they thought the water main on the corner burst, but then they realized it was actually the sprinkler system for the complex. The outdoor system, that is. I have a complicated relationship with that system anyway, I think our landscapers here mow way too often and overwater like mad, but STILL.
This will probably not go anywhere, and that's fine! But I figured I'd put this up and ask just in *case* anyone has this stuff and was thinking about tossing it in the donate bin.
I'm working on getting a dye workshop set up in my basement, and if any of you local people have old but still working crockpots you're looking to get rid of or those steamer inserts for pots (like this) I would be happy to take them off your hands, and could make you something in exchange, perhaps? I know the steamer inserts are cheap, I'm not really concerned about picking some up, but I figured I'd ask around in case people were looking to get rid of them.
Thanks!
I'm working on getting a dye workshop set up in my basement, and if any of you local people have old but still working crockpots you're looking to get rid of or those steamer inserts for pots (like this) I would be happy to take them off your hands, and could make you something in exchange, perhaps? I know the steamer inserts are cheap, I'm not really concerned about picking some up, but I figured I'd ask around in case people were looking to get rid of them.
Thanks!
I just met a little girl named Maddie. She's maybe 4? She came into the library wearing a beautiful white dress with a big rose on the waistband, and bright green clogs with giant flowers painted on them. My co-worker and I were chatting with Maddie and her mom, and my co-worker said to Maddie "Are you a woman who likes to be fancy?" or something like that. Her response was just "I'm *Maddie*." Which was, basically, perfect, and the reason I'm even telling you guys about it, because that was the moment that I started thinking about
madwitch.
It's late and I'm tired and there are a million things I should really post about, but here we are.
Do you want to know what magic is? Because I've said this before, but tonight it's even more true than it was last time. Magic is when you don't get to see your friend very often because she lives in Wales or someplace equally ridiculous, but because she's a writer and because you listen to a fantasy podcast sometimes, you get to hear someone read her words to you and tell you a story sometimes. What's even better is when sometimes it ends up where another friend that you also don't get to see enough is the one reading you the story your friend wrote, so you get to hear a beloved voice reading you something written by another love.
I thought that was the best it could be. I was wrong.
Magic is when your commute changes, so you stop listening to the podcast for about a year, and then one day you don't feel like music so you switch over to the stories, and you aren't really paying attention to where you are in the backlog, so all of a sudden you hit a friend's story. Even if you just saw that friend the weekend before (bless us Readercon), it's still a jolt of pleasure to hear their words read and get to feel like they're telling you a story.
Then tonight, tonight I found out it could get even better. Listening to Podcastle tonight, I got to the recent spotlight they did on the new Bordertown anthology. Which means I got to hear
ellen_kushner's voice all of a sudden! I mean again, I just saw her last week, but it's still fun to be in the car all alone near midnight and suddenly feel like your friend is talking to you, right? It also meant, because I remembered the posts about this, that I knew something amazing was coming.
tithenai has a poem in the book, and I knew that her sister and sister's fiance had recorded it as a song, and it was going to play. So sure enough, all of a sudden I hear Dounya singing Amal's words and I'm in the car and I'm crying because a) it's a beautiful song and b) Dounya has such a gorgeous voice and the whole experience is nothing but magic. So I'm grinning my stupid face off at how fantastic this all is and then Amal is TALKING and Amal was not AT Readercon this year and I missed her so much and she is TALKING to me in my CAR and I'm parked outside my house with my hand over my mouth and tears streaming down my face because of it all and how beautiful her voice is and how much she loves to tell me about how this poem was written in collaboration with
catvalente's story and and *hand wave flail*.
So yes. That's what magic is.
Do you want to know what magic is? Because I've said this before, but tonight it's even more true than it was last time. Magic is when you don't get to see your friend very often because she lives in Wales or someplace equally ridiculous, but because she's a writer and because you listen to a fantasy podcast sometimes, you get to hear someone read her words to you and tell you a story sometimes. What's even better is when sometimes it ends up where another friend that you also don't get to see enough is the one reading you the story your friend wrote, so you get to hear a beloved voice reading you something written by another love.
I thought that was the best it could be. I was wrong.
Magic is when your commute changes, so you stop listening to the podcast for about a year, and then one day you don't feel like music so you switch over to the stories, and you aren't really paying attention to where you are in the backlog, so all of a sudden you hit a friend's story. Even if you just saw that friend the weekend before (bless us Readercon), it's still a jolt of pleasure to hear their words read and get to feel like they're telling you a story.
Then tonight, tonight I found out it could get even better. Listening to Podcastle tonight, I got to the recent spotlight they did on the new Bordertown anthology. Which means I got to hear
So yes. That's what magic is.
Default icon is appropriate, for I am zoomy with work today.
SO! Here's the thing: I am spending the rest of my grant money and I have a headache so I fear that I may be forgetting something IMPORTANT! In this post I am making a list so that YOU can check it twice and tell me if I forgot something.
Things I already have:
Xbox 360 + 1 controller
Band Hero for the Xbox + 1 guitar, drum kit, and mic.
Wii + 4 controllers, 2 nunchucks
PS2 + 2 controllers
What I am getting:
2 Flip cameras (not game related, but if people know of accessories I HAVE to get, tell me please)
PS3 (comes with 1 controller, ordering an additional 3)
3 more Xbox 360 controllers
2 more PS2 controllers
The multitap thing so I can plug in those extra PS2 controllers
2 more Wii nunchucks. There are usually fights over them when the Smash Brothers starts up.
What am I forgetting that I should really have? This doesn't include the games I'll be picking up, of course.
SO! Here's the thing: I am spending the rest of my grant money and I have a headache so I fear that I may be forgetting something IMPORTANT! In this post I am making a list so that YOU can check it twice and tell me if I forgot something.
Things I already have:
Xbox 360 + 1 controller
Band Hero for the Xbox + 1 guitar, drum kit, and mic.
Wii + 4 controllers, 2 nunchucks
PS2 + 2 controllers
What I am getting:
2 Flip cameras (not game related, but if people know of accessories I HAVE to get, tell me please)
PS3 (comes with 1 controller, ordering an additional 3)
3 more Xbox 360 controllers
2 more PS2 controllers
The multitap thing so I can plug in those extra PS2 controllers
2 more Wii nunchucks. There are usually fights over them when the Smash Brothers starts up.
What am I forgetting that I should really have? This doesn't include the games I'll be picking up, of course.
So I was gone all weekend, and then when I came back I was super-busy with booktalks and meetings at the school and so on. I think I managed to go back far enough that I've read everything, but if you feel like something was important that I maybe missed, please let me know.
The weekend in VA was awesome though, we had a lot of fun with our friends and their kids. Now we're home, and two days of booktalks later I'm finally back in my office and setting into some kind of normalcy again. More later, perhaps.
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- I'll respond by asking you five questions so I can get to know you better.
- Update your journal with the answers to the questions.
- Include this explanation in the post and offer to ask other people questions.
Questions from
tanyad :
1. What powers would you have as a character on MLP:Friendship is Magic?
Like, what would my cutie mark be? Either something with books and libraries or something yarn based. Possibly Rarity outsources some of her special order knitted fabrics to me, IDK.
2. What's your favorite kind of yarn and why?
Ok, to wear would be this yummy cashmere/mink blend that
akirachan made me a hat with ages ago. To knit, probably Creatively Dyed cashmere/merino blend, fingering weight.
3. Are you coming to ChiCon next year? (hopes that you are!)
Is that Worldcon? That's in Chicago next year, right? If we're thinking about the same thing the plan is to come, yes.
lynxreign 's mom is in Chicago, plus you and
thewayoftheid and hopefully
karnythia again by that point, and other people I'm not even remembering right now, so Chicago has a lot going for it. Plus I've never actually been to Chicago, and I want to see it.
4. What would you do with a million dollars, tax free?
First, buy a house. This is Boston area, so that may take all of it, IDK. If there's enough after that it goes to buying houses in the same neighborhood for our friends and taking over as much of the area as possible for general nerdery. Anything leftover would go to setting up my fiber studio.
5. What's your favorite spot in the library?
Probably my office? Haha, I don't really get to just hang out here much, so it's hard to say. Train table is pretty cool, the roof is neat but I don't get up there much, the YA space is pretty great now but again, I can't really just go sit over there.
The weekend in VA was awesome though, we had a lot of fun with our friends and their kids. Now we're home, and two days of booktalks later I'm finally back in my office and setting into some kind of normalcy again. More later, perhaps.
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1. What powers would you have as a character on MLP:Friendship is Magic?
Like, what would my cutie mark be? Either something with books and libraries or something yarn based. Possibly Rarity outsources some of her special order knitted fabrics to me, IDK.
2. What's your favorite kind of yarn and why?
Ok, to wear would be this yummy cashmere/mink blend that
3. Are you coming to ChiCon next year? (hopes that you are!)
Is that Worldcon? That's in Chicago next year, right? If we're thinking about the same thing the plan is to come, yes.
4. What would you do with a million dollars, tax free?
First, buy a house. This is Boston area, so that may take all of it, IDK. If there's enough after that it goes to buying houses in the same neighborhood for our friends and taking over as much of the area as possible for general nerdery. Anything leftover would go to setting up my fiber studio.
5. What's your favorite spot in the library?
Probably my office? Haha, I don't really get to just hang out here much, so it's hard to say. Train table is pretty cool, the roof is neat but I don't get up there much, the YA space is pretty great now but again, I can't really just go sit over there.
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doctoreon at Signal Boost!
Help get
donutsina6speed's documentary about women in action sports off the ground!
PLEASE DONATE HERE
If every person who signed her petition contributed $10, she would reach the project goal! :)
From the site:
The Story
I was inspired by Amelia Brodka's poignant blog post to start a petition about ESPN's decision to remove women's vert skating from this year's X Games. The response I received was overwhelming: a thousand signatures in seven days. Many of the people who signed this petition were women from within the industry.
Female athletes everywhere are calling out for a change. Instead of waiting for someone else to tell their stories, I decided to pick up a camera and do it myself. I will unite their voices and give them and opportunity to speak up. I will make people listen.
I am traveling around the globe (well, most of it) to find and expose the women and girls who are progressing this sport; creating spaces for the next generation of skaters and who work tirelessly behind the scenes. I will interview anyone in the extreme sports industry that is willing to sit still (or walk along with me) for a few minutes.
I want to make it clear that there are female skateboarders so that any little girl who dreams of a life as a pro skater can easily reach positive female role models and look up to them.
The Impact
NO GAMES will focus on the ever-growing presence of female skaters around the world. I want to open a dialogue about the inequalities women face in the skateboarding industry. The documentary will not only encourage more women to pick up a skateboard, but also make the extreme sports industry more inclusive.
If I'm unable to finish my documentary, women lose a valuable platform for their voices. With the lack of TV coverage of women's action sports events, the documentary is an important venue for female athletes to be seen and heard. If NO GAMES doesn't happen, it just continues the cycle of erasure and the myth that women's events are not worth watching.
What We Need & What You Get
$10,000 is the absolute minimum I need to to finish my documentary through post production. The amount raised will go toward travel so that I may interview and film different women around the world who are redefining the skateboarding industry and leading women's progression. I'll be attending different contests to talk to up and coming women in that scene, as well as sitting down to interview professional skaters who are working towards change. I'll be going to several countries in Europe, Japan, Canada, and several US States, spending at least four days in each location to get all the shots and interviews I need, as well as promote the documentary to build support for its release.
I've already paid for my equipment expenses out of my own pocket and spent hours reading reviews and researching each component so that I know I'm able to put out the best work that I can. I also plan on doing some fundraising on my journey to help pay for expenses.
But, I've also set aside some money of my own to give back to everyone that helps make this happen!
Go to the site to see a list of perks you can get if you contribute.
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apis_cerana
PLEASE DONATE HERE
If every person who signed her petition contributed $10, she would reach the project goal! :)
From the site:
The Story
I was inspired by Amelia Brodka's poignant blog post to start a petition about ESPN's decision to remove women's vert skating from this year's X Games. The response I received was overwhelming: a thousand signatures in seven days. Many of the people who signed this petition were women from within the industry.
Female athletes everywhere are calling out for a change. Instead of waiting for someone else to tell their stories, I decided to pick up a camera and do it myself. I will unite their voices and give them and opportunity to speak up. I will make people listen.
I am traveling around the globe (well, most of it) to find and expose the women and girls who are progressing this sport; creating spaces for the next generation of skaters and who work tirelessly behind the scenes. I will interview anyone in the extreme sports industry that is willing to sit still (or walk along with me) for a few minutes.
I want to make it clear that there are female skateboarders so that any little girl who dreams of a life as a pro skater can easily reach positive female role models and look up to them.
The Impact
NO GAMES will focus on the ever-growing presence of female skaters around the world. I want to open a dialogue about the inequalities women face in the skateboarding industry. The documentary will not only encourage more women to pick up a skateboard, but also make the extreme sports industry more inclusive.
If I'm unable to finish my documentary, women lose a valuable platform for their voices. With the lack of TV coverage of women's action sports events, the documentary is an important venue for female athletes to be seen and heard. If NO GAMES doesn't happen, it just continues the cycle of erasure and the myth that women's events are not worth watching.
What We Need & What You Get
$10,000 is the absolute minimum I need to to finish my documentary through post production. The amount raised will go toward travel so that I may interview and film different women around the world who are redefining the skateboarding industry and leading women's progression. I'll be attending different contests to talk to up and coming women in that scene, as well as sitting down to interview professional skaters who are working towards change. I'll be going to several countries in Europe, Japan, Canada, and several US States, spending at least four days in each location to get all the shots and interviews I need, as well as promote the documentary to build support for its release.
I've already paid for my equipment expenses out of my own pocket and spent hours reading reviews and researching each component so that I know I'm able to put out the best work that I can. I also plan on doing some fundraising on my journey to help pay for expenses.
But, I've also set aside some money of my own to give back to everyone that helps make this happen!
Go to the site to see a list of perks you can get if you contribute.
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